Own Your Life

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Yesterday I was listening to a friend air her concerns about the guy she was seeing. “Do I really like him though? Do I want to make this official?” she asked. We laughed as I told her she is too old for commitment issues (I shoot from the hip), but I did have empathy.

My friend wanted me, or anyone, to tell her the answers regarding her love life. And all I could tell her was “only you can answer these questions because this is your life”. She probably knows the answers already, but doesn’t realise it because her mind is swimming with a million other anxious and afraid thoughts. On top of that are the host of well-meaning voices that have told her what to do, making a lot of noise.

I know what it’s like, because for a long time I spent every day in her shoes.

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Fear vs. Hope

With a passion, I truly despise fear. Fear steals joy, kills hope and destroys dreams.

Fear has the ability to break your spirit and stunt your growth. It can darken any mood, any room, any mind or heart. When we listen to fear, everything that could possibly go wrong suddenly seems real. But it’s not.

Fear is convincing and cruel, and so very subtle. Everything it says is a lie because fear is buried in darkness. It slinks away from any form of light, because in the light there is truth. Fear doesn’t want you to know the truth.

The truth is that fear is a liar that labels you as a failure before you’ve even tried. Fear is irrational and people ruled by fear aren’t truly living, they are prisoners. Fear is a dead-end.

However, it doesn’t end with fear.

Hope gives life, she is a breath of fresh air. She’s hard to trust, but she’s a heck of a lot of fun. Hope is a risk taker, she is exciting. She brings perspective and joy. She can’t fix the ‘now’ of your situation, but she offers an alternative for your future, if you choose her.

Hope is the tiny flower in a vast desert and she’s the light at the end of the tunnel. Hope is the oxygen to my lungs when fear is threatening to take over.

Hope is my friend, fear is not. Hope is life, fear is death.

I choose life. I choose hope. How about you? 

Do you ever struggle to choose hope over fear? Does fear control you? What are you afraid of? Leave a comment.

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Fear vs. Hope

With a passion, I truly despise fear. Fear steals joy, kills hope and destroys dreams.

Fear has the ability to break your spirit and stunt your growth. It can darken any mood, any room, any mind or heart. When we listen to fear, everything that could possibly go wrong suddenly seems real. But it’s not.

Fear is convincing and cruel, and so very subtle. Everything it says is a lie because fear is buried in darkness. It slinks away from any form of light, because in the light there is truth. Fear doesn’t want you to know the truth.

The truth is that fear is a liar that labels you as a failure before you’ve even tried. Fear is irrational and people ruled by fear aren’t truly living, they are prisoners. Fear is a dead-end.

However, it doesn’t end with fear.

Hope gives life, she is a breath of fresh air. She’s hard to trust, but she’s a heck of a lot of fun. Hope is a risk taker, she is exciting. She brings perspective and joy. She can’t fix the ‘now’ of your situation, but she offers an alternative for your future, if you choose her.

Hope is the tiny flower in a vast desert and she’s the light at the end of the tunnel. Hope is the oxygen to my lungs when fear is threatening to take over.

Hope is my friend, fear is not. Hope is life, fear is death.

I choose life. I choose hope. How about you? 

Do you ever struggle to choose hope over fear? Does fear control you? What are you afraid of? Leave a comment.

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I’m Walking Alone

I do this thing where I want to be like everyone else enough to fit in, but then want to be entirely unique so that I stand out. What, you do it too? Oh right, we all do it.

I’ve always been right on the edge of quirky just enough to be normal. Just.

But now I think I’ll just be plain quirky, because after looking under the couch and examining my bedroom for clues, I’ve realised that’s exactly who I am. And there is a lot of life-changing quirkiness that is waiting to come out. Just you wait!

Where am I going with this? I’ll let two geniuses say it better to save me stealing their words:

“A woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. A woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has seen before.” -Albert Einstein

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” -Steve Jobs

Often, when I try something new, my immediate intention is to indirectly clone the way I saw it done first. Because in my head, everyone else is doing it right or doing it better.

“Hmm, my blog post isn’t laid out like that.”

“Why doesn’t this look as good on me as it did on the mannequin in the shop?”
(Fact: Mannequins are LIARS!)

“Wow, her photography style is different to mine. I need to do it more like that.”

Uh, no. Just because it was done one way before, doesn’t mean I can’t redefine it and do it another way. Yes, my way might be wrong and a complete failure, but at least I stepped out and tried. There will be a day when it isn’t wrong, it’s pure genius, and everyone will bow to my greatness. I jest… kind of.

I have recently become part of the ‘Apple cult’. The large group of the modern world that swear by Apple products, and pay over and above the standard price of a computer without hesitation. (Except I got my Mac second-hand for half the price so I’m not a complete sucker.)

Why do we do it? How does Apple do it?

Well, Steve Jobs saw how one guy was doing it, and decided to do it differently. Whether it was better is for you to decide, and each to their own (the Microsoft and Apple debate has been going forever). But the point is that Jobs went one step further to foresee what the consumer wanted, before the consumer knew that they wanted it. He made the consumer want it. He refused to be ‘trapped by dogma’ and he walked alone, sometimes very literally. My oh my, did this serve him well.

I recently saw the Einsteun quote from above on a friend’s Facebook page. This is what I commented and I will say it again here:

In that case, if you need me, I’ll be walking alone!

Am I alone in this? Are you more bold than me with your decisions, ideas and endeavors, or are you afraid to stand out? Leave a comment.

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I’m Walking Alone

I do this thing where I want to be like everyone else enough to fit in, but then want to be entirely unique so that I stand out. What, you do it too? Oh right, we all do it.

I’ve always been right on the edge of quirky just enough to be normal. Just.

But now I think I’ll just be plain quirky, because after looking under the couch and examining my bedroom for clues, I’ve realised that’s exactly who I am. And there is a lot of life-changing quirkiness that is waiting to come out. Just you wait!

Where am I going with this? I’ll let two geniuses say it better to save me stealing their words:

“A woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. A woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has seen before.” -Albert Einstein

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” -Steve Jobs

Often, when I try something new, my immediate intention is to indirectly clone the way I saw it done first. Because in my head, everyone else is doing it right or doing it better.

“Hmm, my blog post isn’t laid out like that.”

“Why doesn’t this look as good on me as it did on the mannequin in the shop?”
(Fact: Mannequins are LIARS!)

“Wow, her photography style is different to mine. I need to do it more like that.”

Uh, no. Just because it was done one way before, doesn’t mean I can’t redefine it and do it another way. Yes, my way might be wrong and a complete failure, but at least I stepped out and tried. There will be a day when it isn’t wrong, it’s pure genius, and everyone will bow to my greatness. I jest… kind of.

I have recently become part of the ‘Apple cult’. The large group of the modern world that swear by Apple products, and pay over and above the standard price of a computer without hesitation. (Except I got my Mac second-hand for half the price so I’m not a complete sucker.)

Why do we do it? How does Apple do it?

Well, Steve Jobs saw how one guy was doing it, and decided to do it differently. Whether it was better is for you to decide, and each to their own (the Microsoft and Apple debate has been going forever). But the point is that Jobs went one step further to foresee what the consumer wanted, before the consumer knew that they wanted it. He made the consumer want it. He refused to be ‘trapped by dogma’ and he walked alone, sometimes very literally. My oh my, did this serve him well.

I recently saw the Einsteun quote from above on a friend’s Facebook page. This is what I commented and I will say it again here:

In that case, if you need me, I’ll be walking alone!

Am I alone in this? Are you more bold than me with your decisions, ideas and endeavors, or are you afraid to stand out? Leave a comment.

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